Tips for Parents Regarding School Safety
Our school district works to prevent school violence and to keep our schools safe. We realize that children, staff and parents all have an important role in promoting school safety and reassuring students that schools are generally very safe places for children and youth. Our goal is to reassure students that although there is always the possibility of violence occurring in school, the probability of a school experiencing a violent act is extremely low. We want to work together with parents and our community to prevent school violence and support our students in feeling safe when they are at school.
Adults can provide leadership by reassuring students that schools are generally very safe places for children and youth and reiterating what safety measures and student supports are already in place in their schools. We can also ask adults and students to follow procedures and report any and all concerns. We encourage parents to talk to their children about school safety at home and therefore wanted to provide you with tools you could use to guide you in these discussions.
What to Say to Children about School Violence
One of the most important steps is to talk with your children in a manner which they can understand.
Pre-K – Grade 2: Keep your explanations simple. Reassure children that they are safe and adults are there to protect them. Allow them to express their feelings through drawing or imaginative play.
Grades 3–6: Children may have specific questions about what is being done to keep them safe. Discuss your school’s safety plan and answer questions. Children at this age may need help separating reality from fantasy.
Grades 7–12: Children and teens will be more vocal in their opinions and may have suggestions for changes to safety protocols the school should make. Include them as an integral part of the process of keeping the school safe and remind them to report unsafe activity to administrators.
You should always be certain to validate their feelings and let their questions guide what and how much information you provide. Be open to opportunities to talk when they are ready, be honest about your own feelings related to violence, and emphasize the positive things that child/family/school can do to stay safe. Be patient. Children and youth do not always talk about their feelings readily. Watch for clues that they may want to talk, such as hovering around while you do the dishes or yard work. Some children prefer writing, playing music, or doing an art project as an outlet. Young children may need concrete activities (such as drawing, looking at picture books, or imaginative play) to help them identify and express their feelings.
Be aware of signs that a student might be in distress, e.g., changes in behavior, anxiety, sleep problems, acting out, problems at school or with academic work. Also be conscious of media exposure and what you say about the event. Limit television viewing (be aware if the television is on in common areas).
Following are some suggested general key points when talking to students:
We all play a role in the school safety. Be observant and let an adult know if you see or hear something that makes you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened.
There is a difference between reporting, tattling or gossiping. You can provide important information that may prevent harm either directly or anonymously by telling a trusted adult what you know or hear.
Although there is no absolute guarantee that something bad will never happen, it is important to understand the difference between the possibility of something happening and probabilitythat it will affect you or our school.
Senseless violence is hard for everyone to understand. Doing things that you enjoy, sticking to your normal routine, and being with friends and family help make us feel better and keep us from worrying about the event.
Sometimes people do bad things that hurt others. They may be unable to handle their anger, under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or suffering from mental illness. Adults (parents, teachers, police officers, doctors, faith leaders) work very hard to get those people help and keep them from hurting others. It is important for all of us to know how to get help if we feel really upset or angry and to stay away from drugs and alcohol.
Stay away from guns and other weapons. Tell an adult if you know someone has a gun. Access to guns is one of the leading risk factors for deadly violence.
Violence is never a solution to personal problems. Students can be part of the positive solution by participating in anti-violence programs at school, learning conflict mediation skills, and seeking help from an adult if they or a peer is struggling with anger, depression, or other emotions they cannot control.
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